If you are an avid follower on IG, you know that we’re always featuring people with MASS APPEAL – whether it’s their clothes, hair, posture or whatever the takeaways are from the picture. Additionally, we place quotes under each pic that we think fits the occasion (BTW, we hope you’re reading the quotes.) This week, we focus on MASS APPEAL and how to help those who struggle a bit as well as continuing to highlight those who master the subject. Before we get into the tips, we had to go back into the crates and pull out a fav – Mass Appeal.
“I know I’m dope but don’t wet that / I’ve suffered setbacks but now I’m makin greenbacks / Just like baggy slacks I’m crazy hip-hop / Check one two and you don’t stop” – Gang Starr (Mass Appeal)
1. Establish a routine schedule of seeing a barber
Finding a good barber and establishing a routine schedule helps promote good hair growth, but most importantly, shows that you care about your appearance. People who wait until their hair gets long, out of control or until a special event doesn’t quite understand the importance of grooming on a regular basis. In addition to getting a haircut, maintaining a consistent shaving schedule is equally important. Your barber should be well-skilled in both, in addition to recommending products that keep a beard or clean-shaven person skin looking moist and vibrant.
Summary: Don’t be a cheap-ass, get a haircut and shave regularly. Otherwise, you’ll be an average guy and you would attract an average lady (or less).
2. Wear a suit more often
Everyone’s 9-to-5 doesn’t require them to wear a suit. However, nothing stops a person from wearing a suit on a night out with the fellas or just a casual visit to a bar for a drink. The suit doesn’t have to be expensive, but it must fit. WHY? Because it will feel comfortable and dress professionally improves your MASS APPEAL as well as shows confidence. If you don’t believe me, then get the boys together and everyone put on a nice suit, make a reservation at a restaurant and look at how all the people look at you all when you walk in. Or, go solo and look at how the people look at you. Trust me, this first impression will set the stage for good days and nights in the future.
Summary: Clothes may not make the man, but they damn sure make a helluva first impression.
3. Keep your shoes clean
Women love shoes, so it’s only natural that they look at the shoes you’re wearing. this doesn’t mean they only pay attention to women shoes. Even if your shoes aren’t new, purchase some polish and make sure your kicks are clean. If you’re not too comfortable polishing shoes, sometimes large department stores will have someone on-hand to polish them for you. This shows that you pay attention to detail. Yep, she isn’t going to be talking to your feet, but you’d be surprised what she’s looking at when you’re not looking. Trust me, if she agrees to go on a date with you, she’s checking you out just as much as you’re checking her out.
Summary: Your “shoe game” has to be on point or she may give your ass the shoe (know what I mean.)
4. Be a gentleman
Yep, this is obvious, but some are confused by how a gentleman behaves. On a date, first, open the car door, open the door to the restaurant, pull out the chair. Hell, why not feed her too. Okay, that may be taking it a bit too far, but you have to make the woman feel special. As we said in #2, you have to make a lasting impression. Now, don’t put your coat down over a puddle, but invest in a nice umbrella in case it rains. this shows that you’re prepared. Women want a man they can rely on, not a man they have to teach how to be a man. Let me say that one again, “Women want a man they can rely on, not a man they have to teach how to be a man.”
Summary: Chivalry is not dead, it’s just forgotten.
5. Teeth
You probably spend a lot of time talking, unless your job consists of gazing at birds. Even so, when you smile or talk, she’s looking in your mouth. Sometimes this can be a major turn-off for most women. If you don’t have that Obamacare yet, you need to get it and go to the dentist at least twice a year for cleaning and checkup. Why not? You’ve come this far, you may as well get your mouth checked out. Bad teeth lead to bad breath, which studies have shown has a direct correlation to your health. Don’t let something so simple ruin your chancing of meeting Mrs. Right. There are many products on the market to help people written their teeth, as well as help with fresh breath.
Summary: Slay the damn dragon and fix your pearly whites.
6. Read more
I cannot tell you how much women love a good conversation. Nothing helps that more than reading good material. It’s OK to read magazines such as Ebony and certain websites you’ve bookmarked. (By the way, you can easily bookmark EbonyDo.com 🙂 ). But, you have to be diverse in your conversations to show that you are well skilled a knowing about current events and what’s going on in the world. A good rule of thumb would be to mentally rehearse a conversation about certain topics. Most of the guys I know who are great with women use the simplest of simple conversation starters. “Hi.” “What are you drinking?” “Hey, are you from around here?” I realize that these sound simple, and they are. But they’re so simple that they’re disarming. They don’t come across as canned “pickup lines,” and they help you figure out very quickly if the woman you’re talking to is friendly or interested in having a conversation with you.
Summary: No one likes a boring ass person, so broaden your horizon by brushing up on your communication skills.
The topics mentioned in this list aren’t a solution to every guy’s problem. For instance, we all can probably stand to lose a few pounds, but I didn’t mention that one. However, I’m sure that if you practice these 6 tips for one month, people will look at you differently. BUT, most importantly, you will start to look and feel even better about yourself, which always improves your MASS APPEAL.
“So I’ma end this lecture and I betcha / Those who kick dirt and do time I’m gonna get cha / Cause I be kickin the real / While they be losin the race tryin to chase mass appeal” – Gang Starr (Mass Appeal)
– Peace